Journey to a New Life

I was reading in some of the pregnancy/baby magazines that I have and it struck me how many females who read the magazines and send in their stories / questions / comments suffer from Postnatal or Postpartum depression.

This is basically like a form of depression that sets in close after the birth of the baby which can last from weeks to years. I was wondering how it comes that so many mothers go through this, but then as I was flipping through the magazines the answer is actually quite easy. All these magazines, books, stories, movies as ‘what is out in the open’ in terms of pregnancy and babies, is all ‘Flowers and Sunshine’, where the focus is constantly on the great and amazing things of pregnancy, birth and motherhood. How great it is to feel your baby inside you, how awesome it is to buy all the pretty cute clothes and accessories, how to look after your little one’s development and how to be a fashionable ‘sexy’ mama…

All of the attention is based on some picture perfect idea of what it is like to be pregnant and being a mother – while the idea/fantasy is one thing – and reality another.

When I read magazines, half of the pages are just advertisement and then half of the articles are indirect advertisement. So there’s a whole money-making industry linked to the whole baby/motherhood point that one can indulge in from a consumerism point of view. So, to be able to have the life as depicted in the magazines, you need a lot of money. All the fancy clothes, prams, cots and baby rooms they show, are all dependent on money. Whenever people send in questions the advise is often to just ‘go to your doctor to get it checked out’. Doctors cost money. When I read through forums (and I mostly limit myself to South African ones), the main point that comes up again and again is money. Women are complaining that they have yet to start enjoying and being happy about being pregnant because they are too stressed out about money. Doctors visits cost money, scans cost money, tests cost money, classes cost money, new clothes cost money, baby things cost money. It’s really quite a pricy journey to walk through, and if you -- as so many people in South Africa – turn out to not be in a very stable financial position: then pregnancy just means a lot of stress. Both for the pregnancy and future costs of raising a child.

So to be able to have what is in the magazines as what is advertised what it ‘should be like for you to be pregnant/have a baby’ is lots of money. A lot of people don’t have lots of money – so when they compare their life to how they believe it ‘should be’ as the fantasy portrayed in magazines and movies: they get quite disappointed, because it’s not quite matching up.

Then there’s the whole ‘spiritual side’ of pregnancy and motherhood (at least that’s what I call it). This one’s all about bonding and love and having a special connection with your lil’ baby. Then comes the baby and you look for a ‘connection’ and ‘a special bond’ and nothing’s there: shit = I must be a bad mom. I mean, this whole idea that you should have some lovey dovey special wooey feeling / connection / bond with your baby from the first second you see him is so ridiculous. I mean, the baby’s going to be one ugly deformed thing that cries, shits, eats and keeps you awake all night. That’s your primary relationship with your ‘little cherub’ – it’s a completely physical thing, where every second of your life and the baby’s is about tending to his/her physical needs. So you’re not ‘feeling the love’, your baby is demanding ALL your attention, ALL the time – forcing you to be in the Physical, just like the baby is – which is something we don’t get taught to do, as all that we are being promoted to do is to be in our heads and ‘do what we want’ according to ‘how we feel’. And now there is this little person who could care less about your personal wants and preferences and needs you ALL the time, for you to give up your life for a moment.

So if you take reality as being money driven and the nature of the baby being a physical – and you place it into contrast to a world where you have all you ever wanted for your baby and you’re baby is this photoshopped cute little thing and you have all the help and assistance you could have ever wished for (like nannies and stuff so you can still have a life), and you just have this AMAZING special feeling thing between you and your baby and this is the HAPPIEST time of your life == well then obviously you’re going to get mothers who are depressed to shit because what you are selling them a reality that does not exist unless you have a lot of money, and then they go and take it personal and believe that they don’t have what is in the magazines and happy movies because they are bad, shitty mothers who are not worthy of having a baby. And then they feel even more shitty because they are feeling shitty because ‘good mother don’t feel shitty after they had a baby because this is a HAPPY time’. It’s such a fuck up.

We live in a world where no-one is taught how to take care of themselves, take care of themselves for REAL. No-one is being taught what it means to actually take care of things in physical reality, how to nurse your body, how to breathe, how to not allow emotions and feelings to dictate what you do but to use your brains as common sense reasoning. So when you have a baby which is all about being here in every moment, and in every moment tending to what needs to be done as what’s best for someone other than you == people just crash completely because it goes against everything they’re used to. We’re used to serving our self interest, doing things because we ‘feel like it’ and to not do things because ‘we don’t feel like it’. But whether we feel like it or not: that baby is hungry, that baby is going to need its nappy changed, that baby is going to keep you up all night because it’s hungry, that baby is going to need looking after for it’s own safety. Suddenly, all your self-interest is forced down the drain for you to be able to keep your baby alive and well – and it’s not the dreamy, rosy fantasy you have been sold.

And I mean, obviously you’re not going to have some ‘special bond’ with your child from the get go. You just met your baby and all he’s into are primal activities. What’s there to bond about? Drool?

So it’s no surprise that with the rise of mass media and the consumerism society that postnatal / postpartum depression started appearing more and more, as we more and more buy into an illusion and lose touch with reality. We have completely forgotten what it means to actually take care of things. That is why we are living in a world with poverty, pollution, crime, war, etc. These are all signs that indicate that we are not effective in how we are moving things in physical reality which leads to disharmony and imbalance in the world. If we truly knew how to take care of things, in a way that is an actual form of caring: we wouldn’t be faced this these ‘problems’. So, we have a race of beings, the human race – who have proved themselves to be completely inadequate in taking care of things in a physical reality sense, who go and have babies who are all about physical reality and then are surprised at ‘how hard it is’. It’s only hard because we haven’t been doing anything effectively.  Because we rather do things because we ‘feel like it’/’don’t feel like it’ which then results in consequences like climate change and us running out of resources – and now all of a sudden we HAVE to take care of things, because otherwise the baby dies. So these type of conditions are probably only going to increase so long we don’t step up our level of responsibility in this world and get our act together.

The other day I was looking at how weird it is that we as humans are able to create something like a baby, without having any idea of what is really involved in the process. I mean, some people get pregnant and don’t even know about it until the day they go into labour.

While we are off doing whatever it is that we do during our day, our body is busy creating another body, another universe – with billions of cells and structures with various different functions that in the end all come together as one harmonious functioning unit. While all of this is happening, we are completely clueless, just going about our day while our body is taking care of EVERYTHING. I mean, how do our bodies know how to make another body? How to make a baby? I never read up on babies or how they develop in the womb until I was pregnant myself – so my body sure as hell doesn’t know because of me.

It kind of shows how insignificant our ‘human intelligence’ really is, or how puny our ‘mind power’ is – considering that our bodies are able to do everything it takes to keep us alive, transporting blood, processing food, beating our hearts – even breathing for us without our awareness. And then on top of that, it’s able to do aaall of those things and also create/develop another human body and all its processes at the same time. How do our bodies know how to do this? Were we born with hidden manuals on how to clone ourselves without knowing it? lol

And it’s fascinating because, my body is busy creating and feeding a baby, and it doesn’t need ‘my input’ to do so, it’s completely fine managing the whole thing by itself so long I keep eating, drinking and going to the loo. When I am doing something which is messing with the process, my body lets me know very clearly to make sure I get my act together so that it can do what it’s busy doing. I’m not in charge of making a baby, my body is.

If I was able to create a baby from scratch with what I have around me, that’d be pretty fucking genious. Which means that my body is a freaking genious because that’s exactly what it’s doing and it doesn’t need me as a ‘person’ for it, it just needs itself and whatever physical resources necessary to sustain itself. It’s not like I can go ‘ body, you know how we just developed the spine there, how about we change our approach and do it more like that way?’ or “how about we tinker with the DNA a bit and make some changes so it doesn’t have to deal with some of the crappy stuff that it’s getting from us, the parents?”. No, not happening lol. As the being ‘carrying’ the baby, we are completely locked out, excluded from the whole process. We give ourselves way too much credit for carrying a baby, and ‘bringing into this world a new life’, because really our bodies are doing all the work and we’re just going along for the ride. If we’d have to consciously, deliberately be involved in every step, every process that is involved in developing another human being from egg to baby – we’d probably be left with no-one getting pregnant and giving birth because we’re just that clueless.

If it wasn’t for the research that has been done into pregnancy and development of babies, I’d have no idea what was going on inside my own body. Isn’t that sad that we  have to consult books and literature outside of ourselves to tell us / explain to us what is happening right inside our own bodies, right inside our own homes? And even in the research that has been done and has accumulated over time, there is still soooo much we don’t know. We’ve been around for so many years on Earth, and the one thing that we have always had is our human physical bodies – and even though we may have been to the moon, our bodies are still foreign and alien to us and we have been unable to develop any kind of relationship with ourselves as our bodies.

Our bodies are able to do great things, like creating another life form that ends up living its own individual life. And yet, there is no respect towards our bodies on Earth. We fall for consumerism where we feed ourselves and clothe ourselves according to what our mind tells us to; we fail to respect Human Rights where millions of people’s bodies suffer because we’re too obsessed with money and trying to be special; we’re destroying the very planet that gives us Life thinking we can get away with it or at least won’t have to deal with the consequences in our lifetime. We’ve got all this great shit like the Earth, Nature, Animals and our Bodies – and all we do is destroy, destroy, destroy. We have no respect, we have no dignity – we are just spoiled brats trying to maintain an illusionary reality in our minds, separate from the physical. If we were to truly be aware of our bodies, what they go through, what the Earth goes through, nature, the animals – if we could have their intelligence, processing capability and feel their pain – we’d be living a whole different life on Earth.

Isn’t that weird, that we can have bodies but yet somehow not be them? Doesn’t it make you wonder about our design?

For all these type of questions you ever had and SO MUCH MORE – check out the material on Eqafe.com.

It’ll blow your mind right out of your body.

  So I started reading Howard Zinn’s ‘A People’s History of the United States’ and was in tears after a few pages lol. I mean, this is not the heroic / fairy tailed version of history as we get taught in school, where only those things are shared to put the Human Race in a ‘good light’. Sure, we had some wars ‘here and there’ and maybe some genocides in the run but let’s not dwell on those ‘mistakes’ and rather look at all the amazing and wonderful things we have achieved and that got us to where we are today. I mean, have you seen the latest iPhone? Our history was totally worth it….NOT!!! If there was ever a God and a Heaven, I’m pretty sure he closed the Gates a looooooooooooooooooooooooooooooong time ago, because there’s no way anyone of us deserves to go to Heaven after the shit we’ve pulled.

So I was busy reading the book, blown away by the horror of our nature like I was busy watching the most gruesome scary movie ever – and then I realised, oh crap – I got a baby coming into this world and at some stage he/she is going to have to learn about history. How am I supposed to explain this stuff? There’s no excuse, no justification, no ‘explanation’ to how we’ve behaved. For a species granted with the gift of ‘reasoning’, we seem to not have done much with it – except for using it to come up with clever excuses as to why it is okay to abuse and exploit others.

What do we have to show for? Thousands upon thousands of years of abuse – and so far, a future which seems to provide the same story line. We are a sad bunch.

This is not a world fit for children, this is a world of shame! And the worst part is, that for all those years of having screwed things over – we haven’t learnt a thing. We haven’t come up with proper solutions that actually take care of major problems like poverty and starvation. Sure, we have this nice document where on paper we all have these Human Rights – but these are not being protected in any real way. Instead of this being the headline every single day in the news, we rather distract ourselves with gossip and the newest gadget and scandal of the day.

Let’s change our legacy, let us put into place some REAL Solutions we can stop being a complete disappointment for the children to come.

Check out the Equal Money Website, Check out the Declaration of Human Rights as per the Equal Life Foundation. It’s time to write a different story.

In my previous blog I wrote about an article which gave hints and tips on how to effectively brainwash your child to become an adult with the ‘same outlook on life’, and how to effectively program in particular values. The trick seemed to be within the point of Living as an Example, where the parents would have to consciously and within awareness Practice what they Preach.

According to the article, most people want their children to become ‘assets to humanity’ and teach them values such as respect, care, accountability, compassion, devotion, honesty, love, tolerance, understanding, … and so the list continues. If people’s parenting techniques, methods and way of Living these values was in any way effective, we’d be living in a completely different world!

When we look at the news, our environment, our friends, family – even our own inner reality as our thoughts, feelings and emotions – do we see these values/virtues reflected anywhere?

No

These are not the values we are living by, these are not the values which characterize humanity and our interaction towards each other, animals and nature.

I have a news page open right now, and what ‘values’ do I see?

Looks like we as humanity, as Parents have failed 100% in all ways possible in teaching our children as the future of this world any kind of Values that would make us / our children ‘Assets to Humanity’.

Obviously, we are missing out on a great deal of information about parenting and the developmental stages we all go through as a child, even at the stage of the seed, embryo and fetus in the womb – and how we actually learn in this world and where our behavior comes from.

I strongly suggest for anyone interested in Parenting and Child Development to check out the following blogs on the Creation’s Journey to Life blog, which is currently investigating the Developmental Stages of the Consciousness of an Unborn Child – as well as the EQAFE interviews below, which specifically pertain to the self-education of ourselves as Human Beings and the mechanics of the Quantum Mind and Quantum Physical which play a Major Role in our Development as Human Beings, and can thus use this information to our benefit to Perfect our Parenting, both for ourselves and our children.

Creation’s Journey to Life – Consciousness Development Research Blogs

Day 383: Child Development in the Womb Research
Day 385: Fetal Development Stages – Consciousness Research – Week 14 (Part One)
Day 386: Fetal Development Stages – Consciousness Research – Week 14 (Part Two)
Day 407: Preparing the Fetus for Paranoia – Part One
Day 408: Preparing the Fetus for Paranoia – Part Two

EQAFE’s Parenting: Perfecting the Human Race Series

Other Blogs from Creation’s Journey to Life Relevant to Parenting